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24th-Nov-2004 12:02 pm
mazikeen
Thanksgiving used to be my very favoritist holiday. It was all about family and we would have these huge dinners with so many people and everyone would be cracking jokes and having the best time. Then I grew up and everyone moved away and oh well things just aren't the same anymore.

Two years ago was the last time I tried going home to Pittsburgh to have turkey with the extended family. It was pretty traumatic. Oh, I really loved seeing the family, especially my sister's little kids. But holiday travel always messes me up, and I got really sick and I came home and was a total wreck for weeks. I ended up with bronchitis and well it just wasn't pretty. So I swore off holiday travel. Seemed like a good idea at the time.

Last year salacious_pop invited me to Thanksgiving dinner at a friend's house, and then had the bad timing not to show up himself. So I had dinner with a few people I'd vaguely known for a while and a bunch of strangers. I did meet kuteluvr there and ended up having him move in as the roommate du jour for a brief while, so it wasn't a total wash, but it was not too fun feeling like an oddball at a holiday dinner.

This year I thought I'd be in LA with my dad. But his wife had a bit of a falling out with her kids so they decided to go to Hawaii instead. So I have no family within 3 time zones. I thought about cooking dinner here, but all my friends seem to be either traveling or otherwise committed. I haven't gotten an invite anywhere either. I may end up just cooking a chicken for myself and navyboy and watching a bunch of dvds. But I have to say, I'm really not happy about this.

I've never been "popular" or the type that getting invited to do things. I always have to do the legwork myself, or I'd almost never do anything. Do I have a big sign on my forehead that says "IGNORE ME" or something? Usually I can deal with it and just resign myself to always being the one who has to make the call. But fuck it, I'm not going to call everyone I know and see if anyone has room at their Thanksgiving table for me. For once, I'd like to feel like someone thought enough of me to invite me without prompting.
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24th-Nov-2004 12:58 pm (UTC)
Thanksgiving sucks.

Everyone leaves the city, and a friend and I are left to eat Boston Market Turkey Dinner. You can't even go out and party and have fun, coz nobody's around.

Friends invite you to their parents' houses, but that's just weird.

Yeah... it's a crappy holiday all around, and it started when the native americans ganked our bling bling for some rocks and sand.
24th-Nov-2004 02:06 pm (UTC)
On the other hand, if you do run into a cute boy, odds are he'll fall right into your arms cause he's so desperately lonely. It's easy hunting on lonely holiday weekends!
24th-Nov-2004 01:17 pm (UTC) - It can always be worse.
Well, my closest family members are all deceased, and the few extended members haven't spoken to me in years and have never liked my branch of the clan.

I'm grateful for this since I am a solitary person, and I've always associated family with stress and anguish. I find most holidays annoying, but have no issues with spending a weekend alone because all my friends have to take thier mom/dad/whoever out to lunch those days.

You made a choice by deciding not to travel over the holidays.. I understand why, but it's clearly limiting your choices. I'm sorry you're already having a bad holiday season, and feel as upset as you do.

Hopefully something will turn up at the last second... they usually do :)
24th-Nov-2004 02:04 pm (UTC) - Re: It can always be worse.
Yes, it can always be worse, and thanks for taking that from the theoretical to the actual. I know I can always count on you to point out that I'm my own worst enemy. Well, after you that is :-P
24th-Nov-2004 02:24 pm (UTC) - Well what do you expect?
I'm sorry for striking a chrord with you there.. We both already know that we're absolute opposites when it comes to nearly all facets of personality or ideology, so it's no wonder we don't really get along re: a lot of subjects.

Enjoy your four day weekend.. I'm sure navyboy will come to your rescue :)
24th-Nov-2004 01:21 pm (UTC)
no major advice or suggestions, but just wanted to say that i hope thanksgiving works out for you tomorrow.
24th-Nov-2004 02:02 pm (UTC)
thanks hon!
24th-Nov-2004 01:29 pm (UTC) - For the rest of us...
I'm in a similar boat, though I'm sure I'll find something to do... family if nothing else (always a last-ditch option).

I really enjoyed doing dinner the last two years... but I don't have my kitchen anymore, and though I've gotten offers to cook (where else can you spend hours doing something you love and have a dedicated eating crew? ;) I just don't wanna cook in someone else's kitchen.

I'm sure you'll find something enjoyable :)
24th-Nov-2004 02:02 pm (UTC) - Re: For the rest of us...
Well, I suppose you could come cook in your old kitchen =) I even made arrangements to use the next-door neighbor's oven on Thursday, just in case I ended up hosting a meal here and had too much for the one oven.
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